I feel privileged that I can wear diapers whenever I want, there’s so many AB/DL people that have partners, parents or roommates that they don’t feel comfortable wearing around and can only wear in secret. I have a roommate that isn’t into diapers or anything like that, but he’s very kind and is very open-minded, I have a diaper genie and the house always smells fresh. Enemas are a harder pill to swallow for a lot of folks, but I’m really discrete and hygienic about all that, but I lived alone for over a year because I was so nervous, I always thought people would think I was a horrible pervert.
In school when I started wanting diapers and girl things but was still under the strict watch of parents and siblings, I would have to go to great lengths to hide my diapers. I had my own room by the time I was wearing but I have a curious family which meant constant awareness and suspicion, or at least me being constantly paranoid. I kept diapers in constantly changing places and learned how to coerce family members away from certain places. My favorite place my old dresser, I pulled out the drawer there was a bit of space between the drawer and the floor, so there was not chance of it getting found out.
As far as I know, my parents never found out, and probably never will. I’m sure they’d be fine with it, but It’s really none of their business, and I’ve always afraid that they would blame themselves, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing so the blame would come from nowhere. Parts of my family are very supportive and open about transgender and have the “family is family is family” mentality, and I don’t really see the part that gives me weird looks. My family are my friends, the people I spend every day with and love me as I am, and I love them in return.
If you are in the situation where you can’t wear diapers, figure out whats important to you, figure out what decisions you’ve made and which ones were made for you. Understand the limits of the person you’re with and work on getting them to expand them, if someone isn’t willing to be open minded and communicate about the needs of a important person in their lives, figure out why that is and what you can do to compromise. Diapers are a great part of my life that I find a great deal of comfort and peace in, and that calm can make the rest of your life much easier!