Relationship Scams in the Kink Scene (Fake Mommy Dommes, Deepfakes & AI People)

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Mommy/Dominatrix Scams are INCREDIBLY common online right now!

Watch this video to arm yourself against the onslaught of CG Goddesses and AI Mistresses ~ Stolen Images & Wire Scams!

“Catfish(ing)” Means Impersonating Someone Else Online and/or Making a Fake Identity

THERE ARE WONDERFUL PEOPLE IN THIS SCENE!!! Don’t Let This Scare You Off!!! Knowledge is Power. Knowing is Half the Battle! Enter Relationships With Confidence!

That last face is not an AI face, it’s Haley Joel Osment from the movie AI. You can tell it’s a really funny joke because I have to explain it.

Thanks friends, I will make some Diaper Reviews After This! I promise lol!!!

Video Script That Might Not Make As Much Sense As The Video:

Hi there friends! This is Riley Kilo & today we’ll be focusing on Scams in Kink & Queer spaces & the epidemic of fake accounts exploiting our community.

First we’ll discuss critical thinking and give you the tools to protect yourself in any situation, and then we get down to the various tactics you may not have predicted. And this is not about abusive dommes, see my video on Mommy Kat Marie for more on that, this is about actual fake accounts that take money but do not deliver any kind of content or experience. I see people getting scammed all the time by these folks and it’s time we put an end to it, so here we go.

Let’s get the basics out of the way

DONT SEND MONEY TO PEOPLE YOU DONT KNOW.
DONT CLICK SUSPICIOUS LINKS & ONLY USE TRUSTED APPS.
FAKE PROFILES & STOLEN or AI GENERATED PICTURES ARE COMMON,
DONT SEND INTIMATE PHOTOS TO STRANGERS.

Use 2 Factor Authentication for everything and create a secondary anonymous email for naughty stuff.
And lastly, DONT BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU READ ON THE INTERNET, i’m very sorry, but those horny singles in your neighborhood aren’t real, just ads based on your location. I’ll give you a moment while we move on.

How the Mommy Scam works.

First, this is about people enter this community using fake IDs, stolen pics to take advantage of folks. Most folks in the community asking for mutual aid or doing sex work are legit, we’re talking about scammers.
So these scammer people will create an account on social media, often using stolen or more recently, AI generated images. Their profile will say they are an established Domme etc, often gaining followers by retweeting/engaging with potential victims or through bots/other scam accounts.

They try to establish a relationship by attracting people through content or contacting folks directly. I get dozens of unsolicited DMs from horny dudes a day, there’s lots of naive guys out there looking for ANY kind of interaction, letting lust guide them, making themselves easy prey. And there’s plenty of vulnerable folks in our communities, you better believe they target them first.

They bait with chatting/more content (again, mostly stolen or fake) and eventually get around to asking for money, giftcards or information. Be it part of a false plan to meet, or crisis situation, or blackmail, they bottom line is getting something out of you, and they’re targeting kinky people specifically because of the stigma around it.

Common threads include:

Setting Up A Nursery/My Own Place which you can visit!
Buying Webcam
Sick Animals (very popular)
Travel/Family Emergency
Abusive Situations
There are an endless supply of people with nothing to do but scam, and they will lie and decieve in unimaginable ways.

Don’t give up! This is an inevitability in our nightmare corporate algorithm world and has creeped into every aspect of life, not just our community. Get smart or get scammed! .

Red Flags

The bane of all scams is the potential victim viewing the situation critically & objectively, if you were to imagine describing the situation to a cop or your Mom, would it sound like you got played?

Here’s a list of red-flags, not everyone with these traits is a scammer, but every scammer has these traits.
Do they behave like a real person with real interests or does it look like a hashtag engagement account? Is every retweet/post similar or promoting similar accounts? Are they following more people then they have following them? Do you share followers? How much AI art is in their profile?

Check out the “Likes” and “Media” tags, see how consistent they are, are they posting any gear or events or just photos of themselves in non-kink situations? Have they always used the same photos? Did the conversation become hot & heavy quickly? Are they depending on you, a stranger, to solve a crisis? Are they promising recompense tomorrow for a gift card today?

Now, there’s plenty of legit dommes and relationships to be found, but especially now, there’s many older and inexperienced people coming online, so scammers have a ton of fresh Boomer and Zoomer meat, it’s up to us milleniuls raised on Usenet and AOL/mIRC Chat to protect them.

We must be Observant and Patient. The most important skill in our society is learning how to find information online, it’s 90% of any techinical work. Doxx yourself! Especially with Onlyfans, Fetlife etc verifying folks, most scene people will be verified somewhere. Though it’s trickier to tell who’s real and who’s not these days, which brings us to the next topic.

Analog Girl in a Digital World

Reverse Image Search is a great tool. Use Tineye or Google Image Search to reverse search their images. But this is tough in the nightmare world of deepfakes and AI images, but many scammers still just steal images wholesale. These pictures i’m showing you are not real people, they are AI generated images. These are super common, including “Deepfakes” where an AI or random face is put over someone’s body in a video, and it’s getting really hard to tell as a layman. You often see people putting a fake head on their own body, and that’s fine, just be honest what you’re doing and please god, don’t put a kids head on an adult body, I see it often and it’s terrible, what are people doing.

Now more than ever, a scammer or bot can imitate faces and human-like dialogue, but they can’t imitate a history, a real conversation or a unique personality. My best tool for vetting people is a short phone conversation. You can often tell if someone’s using a fake voice and while you can fake video and photoshop etc, scammers (especially non-american ones) will have a hell of a time with a phone call. If they say they’re too nervous or shy to speak for a minute? That’s fine, just don’t send this person money until you’re comfortable they’re a real person. I wouldn’t give any money to someone who just randomly messaged me.

Don’t be pressured, don’t share anything until they share something significant first, the burden of proof is on them. If you send am intimate pic without knowing what’s up, it’s very possible they will use that photo as some kind of leverage. A competent scammer can learn alot from just an Email. Create a seperate mail accounts for social and kinky interactions from the one you bank with. If you have a TikTok with contacts enabled, everyone in your phone will be able to see your account activity. Doxx yourself, search your name occasionally. look at your profile with incognito tabs ti see what other people are seeing. check your privacy settings all the time, they constantly change. Or failing that, throw your phone into a lake.

My bestie and I talk everyday but once she sent me an unfamiliar link on Twitter overnight saying “Check this out” and before I clicked that link, I confirmed she had sent it, took 2 seconds. Accounts get comprimised all the time, it takes constant vigilance to stay safe. Don’t be the farmer on the battlefield, arm yourself with SKEPTICISM and never act frivously online, because hey Mary J. Blige, what can it cost you?

EVERYTHING.

Scammers are common due to our underground status of kink and the supply/demand role/gender gap, but I also feel the acceptence of stolen content in kink communities is responsible as well. How often do you see things like “Pasties” or Captions or deepfakes use non-consenting images, with no care for the people they’re stealing from and putting into porn. I think we need a reffrendum on that garbage ASAP, but that’s our next video.

I have so much more to say, more soon covering Charity Scams & Non-Consenting Content! Full transcript on my site, StayDiapered. We won’t let thse folks turn our hearts cold, the best way to find a Mommy is to be the best you, follow legit Mommies around our community and keep an eye on Personal Sites/Fetlife etc! There are lots of good pro-mommies around. And it’s ok to not have a partner, it’s not always better to have loved and lost if you loved a fraud and lost a bunch of money.

Keep Your Dukes Up friends. All Day Every Day, we’re all in the big city now, we all gotta watch our backs and each others. Be the smart skeptic, don’t believe everything you read online and don’t just believe stuff because it feels good. most of all, don’t use your credit card when you’re really horny, unless you’re on one of my sites 🙂

Thanks and be well, constant vigilance, stay safe and stay kinky friends!